For The Lord Sees Clearly What A Man Does

PROVERBS 5:15-23
“Drink water from your own cistern, And running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, And He ponders all his paths. His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, And he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, And in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.
”‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:15-23‬ ‭NKJV‬
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Drink water from your own well" is a picture of faithfulness in marriage. It means enjoy the spouse God has given you and do not stray.
Furthermore, as the bride of Christ, every member must remain loyal and faithful to the groom, Jesus Christ.
Water is precious in desert lands, and a well is a families most precious possession.
Jesus said to a woman at the well, “Whoever drinks of this water will thirst again, but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life.””
‭‭John‬ ‭4‬:‭13‬-‭14‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
In Old Testament times, it was a crime to steal water from someone else's well, just as it was a crime to have sexual relations with another person's spouse.
In both cases, the offender endangers the health and security of his or her family.
These verses urges couples to look to each other for life-long satisfaction and companionship.
At times, marriage can become dull, and sadly, many people stray from their spouse to seek excitement and pleasures elsewhere.
That can also be said in regard to church. It may feel a little boring at times, but that’s not Christ doing, the problem is in you and isn’t an excuse to look elsewhere.
God designed marriage and sanctified it, and only with this covenant relationship can we find real love and fulfillment.
This is true of the church too, but not man’s church.
It is God who sets out the conditions of covernent, not man. Therefore, it is His five fold ministry or nothing (EPHESIANS 4:11-16).
Therefore my beloved, be certain that your faith is not misdirected, for you shall worship no other god, for the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God),”
‭‭Exodus‬ ‭34‬:‭14‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
Don’t allow God's best for you to be wasted on the illusion of greener pastures elsewhere.
My beloved work at your marriage, choose to keep your relationship exciting, rejoice with your spouse as you give yourselves to God and each other.
God intended marriage to be exciting and satisfying.
it was never His intention that marriage should become boring, lifeless, and dull.
Sexual intimacy is a God given gift to married couples for companionship, mutual enjoyment, and to produce good fruits.
Real happiness comes when we decide to find pleasure in the spouse God has given us and to commit ourselves to meeting his or her needs.
Paul put it like this; “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.”
‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭7:3-4‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
Once married, your spouse has God given authority over your body. it is not yours to withhold nor to disperse anywhere else. But lust is real, and if not dealt with appropriately will lead to one being over come by temptation.
If you withhold intimacy from your spouse you put him or her at risk. Therefore, Paul continued, “Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment.”
‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭7:5-6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
In these verses Paul emphasis the importance of not just sexual intimacy, but intimacy in general in marriage. If you fail to satisfy your spouse, the devil will bring exactly what he or she craves and the temptation will grow and grow.
Therefore, Paul tells us not to deprive one another even for the purpose of fasting and prayer unless you both agree. But if you both agree, you must come together when the time of fasting is finished so that the devil can’t tempt you, for he will come to test at least one of you when you are hungry (MATHEW 4:1-4).
But consider this, a time of fasting is your sacrificial offering to God, it is intimacy with God at its most powerful.
Surely, just as we must not withhold from our spouse, we must not withhold from God.
It is the devil’s purpose to steal, and to kill, and to destroy (JOHN 10:10) your marriage, your life, your future.
He looks for ways to infiltrate your emotions so he can cause one to believe his lies. He wants to make one feel hungry and other to be full.
The division comes, then more negative whispers that continue to bring anger, disappointment, rejection, abandonment and such issues as these.
If you open the door, these devils will enter in.
But as James said, submit to the Lord, rebuke the devil, and he shall flee from you (JAMES 4:7).
Marriage is a three way covenant with God, your spouse, and you, and have become one.
Therefore, don’t allow the devil in to destroy what God joined together.
Whilst Paul emphasis the importance of sexual intimacy in marriage, there is no excuse for selfishness nor abuse. God’s love is selfless, seeks nothing of its own, and is considerate, and not demanding (1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8).
My brothers and sisters in Christ, keep Jesus at the centre of your marriage; make Him the foundation on which you stand. He came to give you life, and that you may have it more abundantly (JOHN 10:10).
Just as with your spouse, your faith in Christ comes from relationship, and without faith, it is impossible to please God (HEBREWS 11:6).
Relationship grows by spending time together in continuous conversation and involving in good activities. Therefore, just as Paul instructs us to not withhold intimacy from one’s spouse, do not withhold from Christ.
Make time for Him and give Him the praise He deserves. Make Him your number one and worship Him continuously, serve Him accordingly, and put Him on the pedestal He deserves to be on, for only He deserves the glory.
He died for you, therefore, single or as a couple, live for Him.
Finally, sexual relations is about marriage and has no place in a single person’s life including self-gratification. It is impossible to satisfy one’s self without falling into sin.
Paul said, “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭7:8-9‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
Furthermore, he also said, “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.”
‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭1‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
According to Paul, better to stay as he was, (1 CORINTHIANS 7:8), single and uncompromed by the lust of the flesh, and free to serve God without any other responsibilities to others, other than the duties of one’s calling. Thus allows one to focus solely on his relationship with Christ, his ministry, and walk with God without any hindrance or other distractions.
Even so, if lust becomes a problem, take Paul’s good advice and get married.
All glory to God forever and ever! Amen.