Sometimes It Praises Our Lord And Father, And Sometimes It Curses Those Who Have Been Made In The Image of God

JAMES 3:7-10
“For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so.
”‭‭James‬ ‭3:7-10‬ ‭NKJV‬
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If no human can tame the tongue, why bother to try? Even though we can not achieve perfect control of our tongues in our own strength, we Spirit filled believers have the Holy Spirit, who helps and empowers us to a place of self-control (JOHN 14:15:18).
He leads us in diplomacy and righteousness, giving us increasing power to boldly speak out the right words whatever the situation (ACTS 4:31).
He gives us boldness to speak with power and truth, and the right response when we are in confrontation.
The Spirit will remind us of God's love, that we do not react in a hateful manner when we are criticized.
The Spirit of God will heal the hurt and help us to not lash out when offended.
My brethren, one’s tongue is a power tool; “Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so.”
‭‭James‬ ‭3:10‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
The truth is, negative, hateful words are nothing less than witchcraft and opens doors over our lives to the devil to bring all kinds of curses, such as poverty, sickness and curses that block relationships, marriage, and even the ability to conceive. They bring curses of failure and can affect the ability to learn, and bring all kinds of torment, and can cause people to become accident prone and can even bring about death.
Furthermore, those curses can be passed on to our children and their children and so on from generation to generation.
What we say is powerful and has lasting influence over our lives.
Discipline should be out of love for the purpose of bringing positive change toward holiness and edification.
Whilst what we say should be driven by love-truth should not be compromised to please people; but rather, everything we say should be pleasing to God. “Open rebuke is better Than love carefully concealed.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭27:5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
James compares the damage one can do with the tongue as a raging fire, that's source is from hell itself, and when uncontrolled, can contaminate and destroy one’s self and others (JAMES 3:3-6).
Satan uses our tongues to devide people and destroy relationships. He and his unclean spirits are never far away and listen in on our conversations, and bring little whispers of hate, and can even influence what we say in our prayers (JOB 1:6-8).
Idol and hateful words spread destruction quickly, furthermore , no one can stop the consequences of hateful speech. One can apologise, but cannot unsay a single word. Once spoken, the damage is imminent.
We can't change what people say to us, but with the help of the Spirit, one can control our response and even break the curses spoken over ourselves and others (ISAIAH 53:3-6).
“So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”
‭‭James‬ ‭1:19-20‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
Think carefully before you speak; don't allow your tongue to spread hatred with gossip; nor allow anger to add fuel to any fire. But rather, listen to the Holy Spirit, and choose your words carefully out of love.
Dampen down the flames with carefully thought out words, but be firm with grace and forgiveness.
There is a fine line between discussion about someone who needs help or discipline, and gossiping about him or her.
It is so easy to start a conversation about someone out of care and then be drawn across that fine line into gossip.
My beloved, loving discipline directs people into the right direction, but gossip curses and destroys them.
Every word spoken over others and even yourself is either a blessing or a curse, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭18‬:‭21‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
When we start a conversation out of love and care about others, we need not go round and round, repeating our words over and over. We need to discuss and pray, then come to a decision how to move forward and then move on.
Every time we go around and around repeating ourselves, not only do we waste a great deal of time, we give the devil more opportunities to slip in his hateful whispers and turn our words into cursing.
Jesus came to save, not to condemn, and we believers regardless of situations, must not condemn anyone.
But by loving the sinner and hating the sin, we can lift people up to the Lord, and give the holy Spirit opportunity to convict them to change.
My beloved, unbelievers do not have or even know the holy Spirit (JOHN 14:27), therefore, we cannot expect any change in their lives until they receive Christ as their Lord and Saviour.
Though God can soften the hearts of all people (EZEKIEL 36:26), we cannot change anyone or the way they think, only Christ can do that (ROMANS 12:1-2).
Therefore, shine for Christ with firm but loving responses, not just telling them about Christ, but show them His love even in conflict and pray for the them, if necessary in private.
It is the love of Christ that shines from us believers that shall draw many to the Lordship of Christ.
“I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:1-6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
All glory to God forever and ever! Amen.